Something I have learned since becoming an adult, and even more since becoming a parent, is that you cannot take life for granted. I wouldn't necessarily expect a child to fully comprehend this concept, nor would I say anyone should live in a cautious or worried state. There is so much beauty in this world, beauty that you should spend your life trying to be in the company of, rather than stressing and working life away.
People may piss us off at times. Some might argue that no one can MAKE you mad, it's only you who allows yourself to feel that emotion. Most of us are, or have been, stuck in a mundane world of work, stress, anger, regret and sadness. Work that we didn't want to end up doing, or that isn't our true hearts desire. Stress about what we aren't able to do, how much responsibility we have or from feeling stuck in a bad situation. Anger toward people who have hurt us and betrayed our trust. Regret over something we did or said, or even failed to do or say. Sadness about not living the life we want to live. All these things can really blind a person from seeing the beauty in the world around us. And it is NEVER to late to live the life you want to live. Just remember, the longer you wait to start living it, the less time you will have to enjoy it.
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There are beauties all over. Opportunity always knocks at your door, but you have to be home to hear it. Clear your head of the negativity of the world, and open your heart. When you follow your heart, everything will fall into place, but it doesn't always happen instantly. There is beauty in children, nature, family, friends, even humanity as a whole. The ability to see through the bad to notice the good, is a true test, but it can be done.
One of my goals is to learn to let go of the people that drag me down. I feel every person has something wonderful about them, but not all people get along as well as others. Sometimes, no matter the history, you have to cut the ties and move onto a happier life without a certain person. In the meantime, learn to cherish everything good about those you love. Try not to dwell on their negative traits for too long, for you could lose them at any time, and you don't want to end up in regret of not sharing as many good memories with them as possible.
Another goal is to let go of the
things in this world that drag me down. The government is corrupt, people are not fair, things get stolen or broken, plans fall through and traffic sucks. Do you really want to spend your days carrying on about all these, or would you be able to see the blessing in each situation and make the most of it? Can you challenge yourself to set aside the stress long enough to see what good you have right in front of you? I know it's pretty unrealistic to think anyone can live with these stresses and not freak out once in a while. Even when life takes a nasty turn on you, you have to be able to tell yourself that things will get better, because they will. You have to be able to know you are strong enough to make it through this, and don't let it consume you so much that you stop focusing on the beauties of the world.
Goal number three is to follow my heart. If you don't love something, don't do it. If you hate your job, think about why you aren't doing what you love. Many people feel forced to stay with their line of work in order to make enough money. Question one, do you really need all those THINGS? There really is a way out of every situation, be open to spotting it. Change what you don't like, until you find what you do like. Don't be a victim. Don't let anyone else control your life. Don't think it's too late to change. Don't let fear consume your life. You can be as happy as you want to be. You can do what you love.
Life is fragile. In an instant, everything could be taken from you. In a day, your world could come crashing down. Often, it isn't until a disaster hits your world, that you open your eyes to what you should have done, or said, or not said. Sometimes we are fortunate enough to have eye openers, or warnings, that wake us up and get us to realize the beauty all around that we need to focus on. When that happens, can you remember the eye opener every day, and continue to put it into action each day of the rest of your life? This is a struggle. How much practice does it take, to learn to cherish every good in life, every day?
As I write this, I am asking my son to please be quiet so I can finish this post. Where does one draw the line between cherishing the good? I want to follow my dreams and do what I am passionate about, like writing in my blog about what I love. On the other hand, I want to cherish every moment I can with my precious baby boy, for one day, he will not be my little man anymore. When two beauties of the world overlap, how do you decide the balance in enjoying them both equally? I guess you have to take chances. Don't assume, but understand what could happen, and set priorities. Being by a family members side in a time of need, is far more important than a night out with the girls, or the vacation you've been planning for months. Holding your children, teaching them, and loving them everyday is far more important than playing games, gossiping with friends, or wasting time on Myspace.
Find your values, find your dreams, find your hopes. Chase them. Live them. Be them. Life is short when you look back and see what you never did. Life is short when you lose someone and cannot remember the good times, so make sure you rack up those positive memories every chance you get, to prevent that. Life is short, when you lose your own too soon, so take care of your mind, body and soul. They are the only ones you have.
What this all means to me is that I should be more sane by actually having the time to get things done, I should have a little more quality one on one time with both the baby and my Husband, I won't have to stress about my son eating on time, and enough, and it gets me up and out early to prevent lazy days.
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